Hi all, I'm a survivour of abuse (family), and multiple rapes as a teenager (stranger) a. For the past 6 years my partner and I have struggled to take our...
Hey Zizz, Welcome aboard. :) I guess I'm not clear on what is triggering you exactly? What are you afraid might be happening? The problem with triggering, as...
Hi Zizz, Addressing triggers is an absolute must in the healing process. It's very difficult for supporters/non-survirors (being one myself) to get on board,...
Fighting with my partner is simply unimaginable to me. She's got as much control as possible and she wouldn't hesitate to tell me about a trigger. In your...
Thanks for your replies... I repeated your suggestions Mike to my boyfriend. And Brenda, the threat for me is I first and foremost see men telling young girls...
It sounds like he cares about you and this is something that affects you. I would want my wife to tell me how she felt about something that scared her (in a...
... Sorry for jumping your thread like this, but in all honesty I've never found getting someone to make a promise a very effective way of getting them to do ...
To S Butler, I think that it is unrealistic to expect someone in the healing process to be able to do this. Healing is a needy process. The survivor may rely...
Hey Zizzful, Thanks for the clarification. You asked if its ok to ask him to stop the triggering behavior. I see what both St. Vitus and ch_walek are saying,...
Wow! I'm so happy and relieved to find a group that may be able to support me as I try to support my loved one and keep my sanity. OK, maybe a little late for...
well there are of course the books on survivors, books on being a partner of a survivor, but then there are two books that saved my sanity. The first is the...
Hi. I take no offense to what you have said. As for myself, I was not sexually abused as a child, but throughout my teens, right up until my early 30s, was...
Thank you for your response. I'm sorry to hear about how difficult your life has been. It also breaks my hear to hear that you think people have to face...
Thank you so very much for your posting Brenda. Mike ... stop ... protect ... function ... to ... stuff. ... see ... was ... if ... protect ... always ... My ...
Counseling is way overrated. I agree with Simon, some sort of spiritual guidance would be my first choice, be it the bible or some other source you're...
I could not disagree more. A GOOD therapist is worth his or her weight in gold. However, one that you don't gel with is a waste of your time and money. ...
... type ... such ... success ... as ... any ... days ... abuse ... that ... to only visit from time to time, instead of being involved with the every day...
HI again everyone, Thanks for so much feedback. I read it, digested it and conclude basically that we all have rights to seek our needs and negotiate with our...
I have to clarify something. I suggested the book based on therapy not being a possibility. Certainly a trained therapist, that has some knowledge of the...
... (both ... worse. ... make ... life ... friends ... more ... hope ... days ... just ... reading ... not ... abuse ... engage ... this ... that ... Mike:...
Talking about success in our "disfunctional" lives...If I wanted to win in this battle with my past/my loved ones past, I really needed to decide I was gonna...
They're basically pushing for mandatory treatment of mental patients. I think that's a variation on lobotomy. Destroy the personality and declare what's left...
It has been so quiet here lately which I hope is a good thing. This is usually the place you come in times of turmoil so possibly the quiet is good. I am...
Hello, I am here - I rarely write but I always read. It seems like many of us have seen our partners leave after a time of struggle and we still read and some...
Alisa, It is crazy that we all have so many of the same feelings and histories. I had no idea about any of this until it was too late for me to do anything...
... and ... for ... that ... after ... fact ... I ... time ... I ... of ... the ... am ... This ... hope ... we are quiet I hope its for the right reasons too....
I just wanted to introduce myself. I am brand new to this group but have spent the last few years needing this group...The last few months talking about...
Do any of you go to meetings in your area? Do you find it comforting? Do any of you know if there are meetings in CT? I have placed a call to a toll free #...
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