Hi Daisy, Yes it's been quite a while. I have been so busy with college and business and therapy - it just seems never ending. And you bring up a good point to...
I have to say I agree with Scott on this one. While, no, I am not an expert or a psychology major...I was a victim advocate for local hospitals for 2 years....
I also wanted to mention that often, without any DNA evidence, it is very difficult to convict a molester. Several times in my volunteer experience, a child...
Oh. One more thing. In cases where you believe a child may have or certainly has been molested, perhaps a good first step is to go to one of the local...
Hello, welcome to the group. I hope I'm not too late at responding but I wanted to give you a "second opinion" if you will. I will never tell someone to run...
Thanks for all the ideas. Both granddaughter and her mom are seeing councilors, and my wife sees one anyways. My grand daughter talked to a detective and the...
My wife of 18 years has been to councelling for 6 years for step- father/daughter child abuse. As she became stronger, she decided to file for divorce in...
I'm so sorry to hear about the situation with your wife. Others in this group are far wiser than I and I defer to their responses. My partner of two years...
I have a general question for you guys... ... My ex-partner was abused by his brother from when he was 9 (and the brother was 12 or 13) until the time he was...
I just skimmed over this- no offense, just tired to tonight. Not sure if I got the question correctly, but it seems to me that you are wondering if you can...
... Your welcome. ... Yes, Regardless of the time it takes. ... Good :-) ... Ah, ok. :-) ... Good observation :-) ... Ok :-) ... I thought so. I have seen...
Yes, there are exceptions to the rule, and ironically THESE are more the stories we DO hear about outside of psychology/social/hospital/therapy professions-...
You have a very good point JP. I suppose we are all just looking for hope that the evil can be defeated and these are the situations we WANT to hear about....
The guilt and shame of feeling pleasure from a sexual response in incest is something that never goes away from what I see and understand. Being raped is very...
You are so right, as a partner, you have this belief that love conquers all and that if you just believe and if you are just strong enough to show them that...
Anger is very important- especially when it's righteous. We deserve what we know how to ask for. As painful as that is. The moment someone crosses those lines...
Now here's one... ... what we want and need? ... I gave Mrs Frog a piece of gold. I told her that if she never lied to me again, I would trust her 100%, wipe...
I am in love with a young woman who is, I found out, an incest survivor. I had my suspicions early on but allowed it to emerge organically (with a push from me...
My life "blew up" back in Feb. and my husband of 24 years is working at a job 1000 miles away from me and our 3 teenage sons. He started therapy back in May...
... Perhaps this was the reason you fell in love with her in the first place. To learn this lesson. Because it seems that we humans don't learn lessons the...
... What was your(and your sons') reaction to the news? I know you said it was devastating but, did a feeling of suddenly 'walking on eggshells' emerge, in...
It did seem like walking on egg shells and still does to some degree when he comes home to visit. My sons are wonderful and to my husband's credit, his...
Hi Lorrie- I can relate to this. I just found out a few months ago that my wife of 15 years was abused. It explained much of her bad behavior, and I acutally...
Hi Lorrie. Usually, by the time things get bad enough that us non-survivors realize we're in over our heads, the kind of people who we are involved with are ...
WOW!!!!! I rarely respond to a message, but JPotters response to you has made me feel the need. Lorrie, every situation is different, every survivor and...
Thank you to everyone who has responded. I am taking all of this to heart and appreciate the support and encouragement. I think that right now I am somewhere...
Hi again Lorri, I wanted to respond to in your last post. Therapy since May is not such a long time. My wife was in therapy for two years and I thought she...