... I disagree. When I wasn't in a relationship, I didn't "need" to be wanted. I was perfectly happy and content being a single parent. It was only after I got...
... Good job! :-) ... movies ... Yes...while I normally agree with most everything Kathy has written...I don't quite agree here...or at least with how it seems...
hello all if you ask your partner if they are / have abused the child will they tell you? Can you assume that they wont tell the truth though. It just scared...
thanks I found the post 10052 the part I was referring to pasted below I think its appropriate to this discussion and explains my refernce to a "whole Person"...
You have a new baby, you just discovered your hub has DID, He has said he has fantasized about killing his baby, you are not sure if he will sexually abuse...
This discussion on "needing" vs. "wanting" made me think of an exchange I had with my ex-girlfriend survivor that was very sweet. This was back when we were...
Good comments, DP. I like in the article where it states the original term was "counterdependence" not "codependence". I think "counterdependence" indicates...
Hello! No, I wasn't in particular referring to Kathy's past post, but I do remember that one. I think it was possibly in the November or December 2005...
In my case when my son was born, the child within my husband was in a way set free. For years, my husband had kept him quiet. Once there was another child in...
... are times we're going to need a ... need someone else every day, then I ... particular) that needs some work. ... position of power over them. If they ... ...
... <simonfrog@...> wrote: well, this falling apart has taken time, but the breakdown happened ... long ... OMG I am so sorry to hear this. This seems to me to...
Wow, I like your point of view. It is nice to have someone that I can agree and disagree with. I agree that a constant need is unhealthy. I agree also with...
I thought it was good too .. thanks for posting it... I notice you seem to refer to and disagree with Kathys post on love and "whole people". You don't happen...
tristanmarrok wrote: Before I post my reply, I want to clarify that I'm talking about adults here. The emotional needs of children are vastly different. ... I...
http://www.paulhutchinson.com/codependence.htm I thought this was pretty good. I guess one thing that bugs me about the term "codependence"...or rather how it...
Just a little more as if what is isn't enough. My mother had a surgery two years ago, a simple surgery, no problems, except that the doctor, or fate left her...
Hi Allie, welcome. Long intro? sometimes for some of us, it just takes too much to really get the point across, its actually a short post, not too much info,...
Hi Arniny I am in a similar situation in a way...My sister married a guy as did I that was sexually abused. Her hubby and she are divorced though - he has...
... ****Yes it is, no doubt about it. Having spent my time holed up in a corner of the house perhaps I can share some things I took away from that expereince....
Welcome Allie, you have found a place where you are not alone and we do understand. I think the way you put that effects from the CSA would "invade" the...
What marks codependents from caring compassionate people who are willing to sacrifice for someone they love is that codependents NEED someone to need them....
Hello to the group. My name is Allie I am 33 married to a wonderful man and have a 6 month old son. My husband was very clear to me about his past when we...
defining the phrase, does she know that you need her... I want to help my wife deal with what she should deal with but refuses to. I want my wife to be able...
... ***True. Its also the "need" to fix, help and sacrifice to feel good about ourselves. When I was CO-D I had low self esteem. I was insecure and "needed"...
oh - 3 doors down Bk ( who used to post here) got me into them .. Kryptonite is a fav on my playlist ... Landing in london is awesome - haunting ..just...
I personally feel, and have talked to my psychologist about this as well, that the term "codependent" is way overused. Most any very caring compassionate...
do you still need her, and does she know that you still need her? I sometimes think that it is me needing my wife, that is driving her away. I don't really...
You are not alone. I wish I could tell you what to do. My story so reflects your own. Dealing with the coD, trying to accept a diagnosis, but also seeing...
... ****-It sounds like you have done some hard and healing work. I admire your strength and courage. Its important to enjoy life and be happy as much whenever...
Chris, I hope you keep posting, I reply that way too sometimes it's clearer imo esp. when replying to a long post.. its sad that some do not appreciate your...
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