Hi. I am a spouse of an adult male sexual abuse survivor. I am looking for others to talk to about my situation. We have been married a long time (almost 9...
Hi, I just wanted to respond and tell you that you came to a great supportive place. This is a very hard thing to deal with. For him and for you. It will get...
Hello, My name is Scott and I am an adult (42 year old) married man. I have been dealing with my sexual abuse issues for some time now and sometimes feel like...
Hello: My husband and I have been together for 16 years, married for 13. We have two small children together (3 years and 10 months old). My husband has very...
Your kids are very small and will need Mom to be strong for them. It's good to hear that you and your husband are going to marriage counselling and well as...
Heather: Everything you're experiencing is "par for the course" for survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Estimates run as high as one in six boys are molested...
Hi Scott- I am a full-time college student as well. Anyway, I don't understand why he wants to leave and that it seems so easy for him. He was never like...
I feel like we are sortof going through similar situations. I have been w/my husband for 11 years, married for almost 9. We have two kids and 6 months ago my...
Hi, Abuse survivors (all of us) are difficult to understand at times, to say the least. There are so many ways both productive and non-productive that we ...
Hello, I just joined this group and am really glad to have found it. My close friend and roommate Annie is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and she...
Hi Mike, You have found a group of great folks here. I hope we can help you help your friend. I suffer from flashbacks and intrusive thoughts often myself. It...
When my wife disclosed of her abuse, our family was devastated. We have two kids, 13 and 11. It has impacted all of us. My wife and I see seperate counselors...
Daisy, Thank you very much for responding. Advice from personal experience is the kind of thing that is really helpful. I think I may forward some of this to...
Thanks Scott for sharing from a survivor's perspective. I think it is invaluable when survivors share insight into their dynamics, behavior, thoughts. For...
Please help me. I'm a single mom who found out about a year ago that my son was molested by a high school teacher -- about 11 yrs ago. This came out during...
Scott, Thanks so much for your response. It does clarify things. He does often seem like someone who wants to spare me any hurt but at this point, it seems...
Hello, First of all I would like to tell you how sorry I am that you are hurting like you are. I wish there was some magical thing that I could say that would...
Hello, I don't know that I can say anything that you will find helpful or not. I am an abuse survivor. I was abused as a child 5 - 10 years old by 3 older ...
Thanks for being a good (step)father. She knows at least one important man in her life will not (actively or passively) abuse her. It was very brave! ... ...
Thank you, Scott. The teacher went to another school where he committed similar crimes. He was charged with numerous felonies but walked away with a ...
You are very welcome! And I would like to say that I am glad to hear that you are there for your son. I never told my parents about my abuse until I was 28...
Hi all. I've been MIA for a bit...in response, yes I was sexually abused as a child. I shortened it in my desciption to CSA-its easier to say, but I forget not...
First of all, I want to thank you for supporting him. Look up support for sexually abused and there are many sites that list out what you can do to help. In...
What I would give to have my wife{survivor} make any attempt at connecting! Although things are some better, hugs or any kind of touch are at a minimum. Keep...
We almost did it, he even talked about splitting up assets now, so the extra expense of separation wasn't part of it all...I realized (with the help of my...
I'm so proud of you! You're very courageous! It's not gonna be easy...the right things are seldom easy. We're all praying and rooting for you! Something...
I thought if any of the survivors here or the partners of survivors had someone who would want to join, it might be good...the focus is working on it together,...
Hi There, Can any survivor possibly explain why my survivor alway starts a fight with me on special days. Anniversary and Valentines Day. I have never tried to...
