I speak from my own experience and have found that especially when someone is talking about the behaviors of the survivor they love, I can "step into" that...
I understand what you are saying but my husband will not even try sex at all with me. It has been 11 mths now. ... TCruz __________________________________ ...
Hi Shell--- Don't worry about going over things again and again--- when you love someone with all your heart, it's difficult to make sense of things when that...
i understand what you are saying, i know that is where we are because she indicated and said aloud that sex disgusts her right now. she enjoys the begining...
Hi Tracy--- ... not even try sex at all with me. It has been 11 mths now. This is a tough place to be in, because when you love someone it's nice to "be...
Hello again, Shell. I can't answer your questions "for certain" but will give you my feelings. ... her worth, the platonic support? You have already made an...
All comments and advice here are critical for us{partners}. I have not had sex with my wife for two years now. She made it clear at disclosure that she...
I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING AND WE HAVE BEEN IN THERAPY FOR 2 1/2 YEARS AND OF COURSE ALL THE BOOKS AND THERAPIST TELL ME ALL OF THESE THINGS BUT IT IS ...
makes total sense ..your feelings are real and valid and just what mnay of us are feeling / had felt. Don't fight your own emotions. I would encourage you to...
Yes, it makes a lot of sense. My wife and I were very sexual before disclosure. I knew nothing of the abuse. I too would like to hear those type things. I have...
yes...i am so glad we got on this discussion because i wasnt sure if my feelings about this were valid. lgood_56 <lgood_56@...> wrote: Yes, it makes a...
Shell, you are welcome. It means a lot to me to know my words are read and even helpful- after all I have been through I do understand what its like. Something...
Larry, Its good to see you posting again. Your clarity is amazing. I just wish you and everyone all the best - Cyn ... before ... like ... say ... about a ......
Hello Larry. What you've shared sounds really good, and I want to comment especially on this part because it's a good sign: "... she has apologized for the...
Hello again Tracy-- Yes, you make perfect sense. A relationship with a survivor is emotionally demanding, and you are giving and giving, without getting any...
... Of course it is. But you have to figure out why it is hard. If it's hard because you're seeing someone you love in so much pain, that's one thing. If it's...
,,it's cold this evening..feeling real tired..just can't seem to shake this "thing"...i stopped for fuel..i feel like less than i must be..look at everyone..i...
... other ... I disagree--in this case.When one 'meets amd mates' with a partner, there is an expectation the partner will continue to return our love-- for as...
A lot of us understand you BK>--exactly.Take heart.I was 'where you are' not so long ago, and I'm in a much better place now, thanks to friends I found on this...
Hey bk-- You sound really down; it's good that you've reached out here. We are listening and understand. You will not always feel like this. Peace, Rita ... ...
bk, I too am where you are at, I am feeling the same, I am tired but can't sleep, listless, no desire, have to force myself to function, I am hungry also, but...
BK I wish i could just give you a big warm and caring hug..one that would fill your heart with reassurance that it will get better and it will because of who...
BK, I relate to your feelings. I was there about a year ago. My wife has left twice now in two years to work on her abuse. I was a perp in her eyes, and her...
I want to know if anyone can clarify something for me. Im not sure of if i am wording this the right What is the difference between masturbating and having...
BECAUSE WITH SOMEONE ELSE IT IS NOT INTIMATE. WITH YOU IT IS. THAT IS THE ENTIRE PROBLEM IS IT MEANS SOMETHING WITH YOU AND THAT IS WHAT THEY CAN NOT HANDLE....
i have been searching high and low fore a place like this, where there are people who are feeling like me. i will post my story here in the hope that someone...
First of all welcome to this place. I am new here as well, only a couple months so i dont want to give you the wrong advice or misinformation. I will tell...
Ok so its the confusion between the sex and love? I know we were all talking about this earlier but it confused me lastnight when i was reading this book. I...
I THINK THEY WANT TO HURT THEMSELVES BECAUSE THEY DO NOT THINK THEY ARE WORTH ANYTHING. BECAUSE OF WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM I THINK THEY DO NOT LIKE THEMSELVES. ...
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