Just a couple of thoughts Weather you are in a relationship with a survivor or exiting such one of the key questions I think people may need to consider is...
I actively started trying to figure out how to cope w/ a partner who survived childhood sexual abuse. Mentally, I was trying to figure it out all along but it...
How does all this affect kids? Well, here's my report: My daughter is graduating next fall with a degree in psychology--with a focus on psycho-sexual...
I just recentely told my wife of two years that i could not put myself through this anymore and that for my own sake i had to leave. I was not prepared for...
Man it is a hard place to be emotionally. Your head telling you to go for your own survival and your heart not wanting to hurt the person you love. Then...
MY ADVICE TO YOU ALL IS STOP WHINNING AND JUST GET OUT NOW....COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE FREE OF ISSUES....I DID AND AM MUCH BETTER BECAUSE...
as a surviour i find that advice very very self centered.kinda like one of your last post....."maybe we should use this site as a kind of match .com for...
I agree with Cindy on this one.? When you say that you want to leave and then they tell you that they love you and? want to be with you, it is just their way...
I think Ed said it best, if you are getting out of the situation, reflect on what it is that you have been getting from that relationship, or you will go out...
I agree with smoothpebble...this is sound advice for any person in a relationship that is ending for any reason. think about it,reflect on it, remember what...
Mlektex, I will email this to you directly, too. I just checked this site after being gone a long time and it looks like no one's replied to you yet. You...
Hope I'm not too much of a Prodigal daughter. I needed some distance and time away from the partner stuff for a while. Not having a survivor-partner anymore...
Your post is the kind of thing that we all tell ourselves when a relationship ends, but can't quite believe will ever happen. I mean a relationship that you...
My son - 30 yrs old - told me 2 yrs ago his father sexually molested him from approx age 5 thru 13. He has gone to states attorney and police and has written...
... age of 5 to the age of 19. I know what your son is going through the hurt and guilt he feels. I told my family after the birth of my daughter almost a year...
Hi. I'm wondering if anyone has some insight on how I can cope with the following: My boyfriend, a survivor, recently broke up with me unexpectedly. In sum, he...
my wife of almost 4 years is a survivor.........she recently experienced a traumatic setback that opened the flood gates to the abuse she suffered......i was...
... before ... cousin ... I'm ... to ... of ... who ... I think it's safe to assume that it's for the best. In any event, you don't really have much choice. ...
Daniel, I appreciate your insight and empathy. While the worst is to feel helpless in spite of my efforts, you remind me and I take consolation in knowing I am...
well I know many of you on here try to stay positive and continue to fight for a relationship that probably will always be filled with anger and mistrust. My...
So sorry for your pain, and I hope you can find some consolation in the empathy from those of us in similar predicaments. You seem to know that after having...
I have to applaud you on the support you have given her, i know it's got to be hard on you. i know now i'm on the wrong group site but it's nice to see...
Dear Help me help her now, I think you are exactly right about your wife trying to finally be in control by saying that she intends to have sex with other...
Thank you for reading this and please i value everyones opinion on this site since we all share the same experiences and hardships. I posted a few times, I was...
... It would be interesting as to what your survivor would say if you said to her that maybe you needed to have some recreational sex with other people as...
What Ed said about fidelity is right on! My partner had 20 sexual partners (almost all one-nighters) before we got together. She said to me when she looked...
Dear Troubled Times: This is my "opinion" (I'm not clairvoyant.) I find your wife's behavior troubling. I am not saying I have never manipulated to get my...
