I've been with my partner 14 months. She has been in therapy since November 08.
She is currently undergoing EMDR for the sexual abuse trauma and its helping but
its also bringing up so many emotions for her. I beleive she also struggles
with Borderline Personality Disorder. Although I'm a licensed clinical social
worker and "understand" these things professionally, it is completely different
to be a part of it on a personal level. She is having terrible nightmares and
is talking in her sleep, like a re-inactment, of things that happened to her,
begging her abuser to stop. I just laid next to her in bed crying the other
night as I listened to her inner-4-year-old beg and plead. It was terrible!
She's so afraid I will leave her and sometimes is so needy that its almost
suffocating to me. I love her with all my heart though and so intensely hope we
can survive this. I don't want to leave her. She's an amazing woman. She told
me she was sexually abused on our first date. It didn't freak me out because I
had dealt with it professionally many times. But as I said, its different when
its the person with whom you're in love. Any support, advice or guidance would
be so appreciated. Thanks