my boyfriend told me in the beginning of our relationship that he had been raped
as a child when he attended summer camp. At the time I really thought that he
was okay with it, or had come to terms with it, but the last few months he has
began to think about it on the constant. The other night when he went to the
store he saw a man who looked like his rapist and he completely lost his mind.
It got so bad he went to bar and had 6 long island ice teas and who knows what
else, and then he continued to drive home drunk in the process. When he got
into bed he broke down, and I had to convince him that the man who raped him as
child was in jail and could never hurt him again (although he got away with it)

I am trying my best to support him because his family has no idea that it ever
happened, and he has no desire to tell them. I try to tell him that he has
every right to feel violated, and that it is not his fault, he was just a little
kid, he had no idea what to think.

I have no idea where else to turn. He does not want to see a therapist or try
support groups, and this is starting to impact him physically. Should I let his
mother know what happened or will that make it worse? How do I get him on the
road to recovery? He is not the person I fell in love with anymore, how do I
help?