I have been quiet for a long time now, only checking the site once in a blue
moon to see if anyone from my time of need here has posted anything new.  I am
so very sad to see that the group has gotten so silent and am so very grateful
that when I needed it, the site was active and HOPEFUL.
 
I am very blessed to have come as far as I have - and found that my relationship
has weathered my discovering of ME. So often, I focused outward when I should
have been focusing inward. I know that now, and I know how to take care of me
without needing anyone else. Only when I discovered that, was I then able to be
in a healthy relationship.  It just so happens that I continue to be in a
relationship with a survivor. 
 
Please know that some of the diatribes about how CSA relationships cannot work
is only a reflection of the poster's OWN EXPERIENCE.  Not everyone's.  Know that
it is so very true that those of us who are in a better place do not come here
as often - or post as much.  We do exist.  And hope should exist as well. 
Please do not let someone else's experience shadow your own.  And do not take
someone else's "shoulds" as your own.  NO ONE BUT YOU can define what you should
or should not do.
 
Blessings,
Carrie




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