Hi,

I'm new to the group but fairly old to my relationship :)

I've been with my partner for going on 8 years now and our
relationship has suffered for 6 ½ of those years. With the skilled
help from a therapist over the last 3 years, she is in a position to
move forward with her healing which makes me very happy for her and I
hope that she can heal what happened to her as a child.

I'm here because I am struggling in several areas and I'm hoping that
in "talking" with people who have been or who are in a similar
situation can offer me advice or just someone to talk to in this
seemingly lonely place.

My own background is a co-dependent and I understand that it's not
only her that has to change, I have to do it as well and I'm doing my
best to not take responsibility for someone else's problems, (not
only with my partner but with other people around me) but I have my
days.

Are there any positive stories here? Where someone has actually
stayed and things improved?

I appreciate your replies, any and all.

:)
J