--- In positivepartnersofsurvivors@yahoogroups.com, "chelsi47"
<chelsi47@...> wrote:
>
> Does anyone know of a site for parents of both the molester and the
> victim? We are grieving for both of our children, and need to find a
> way to get through the holidays.
>


Probably the best thing, if you haven't found out yet, is
supplementing anything you're doing to cope (like on here) with some
professional therapy. Find a therapist who is comfortable with the
situation and your story, and with seeing the two of you (parents)
together, separate and possibly the children as well.

Isolated incidents with children are not, in the greater events and
stories with what many people deal with on here, so scary. As long as
there is some professional help for you both and some certified
therapists and professionals involved, the scars and damage can quite
possible be quite negligible, and reduce over the years, pending the
specifics of the situation and other factors that you might not know
about or be disclosing (from your own childhoods, patterns possibly in
behavior and awareness or simply boundary awareness and other issues).

I come on here sometimes to remind people that this is an internet
circle and as such, few regulations and conditions, nor "doctors in
the house". So for sure, just like everyone else, if you're not seeing
a certified professional, that is always the next step.

I imagine this is quite a difficult time for the both of you, let
alone the other people involved.