Simon my friend! so good to hear you are doing well. You have been
in my thoughts and prayers even though I haven't been on this board
in a long time. I'm sorry things didn't work out with Mrs. Frog but
if you are happier and healthier then I guess it worked out for the
best in the end. God has a way of doing that.

Serious question tho... Had you just simply ran and not struggled
and tried your hardest to fix you all's relationship, would you be
able to have peace about it now?

I know the five years I spent fighting for my marriage ended up not
as I had originally hoped but I am at peace with it and we are able
to be pretty good friends because of the effort we put in to trying.
It has been of great help to my kids!

Here's to hoping this board can once again be filled with hopeful
determined partners fighting for the greatest cause... LOVE

Daisy

--- In positivepartnersofsurvivors@yahoogroups.com, "smoothpebble69"
<simonfrog@...> wrote:
>
> I remember you daisy... long time baby... I get what you are
> saying. I have been pretty quiet on the board, everything with my
> partner is dissolved except for our friendship. I did like the
way
> you pointed out the poor lil me thing, and that partners of
> survivors tend to not always be the most mentally healthy
> individuals either. That is what I learned in the past three
years
> of therapy... That she was not the only one that was screwed up...
I
> also learned that wanting to fix someone is futile, and when it
came
> time to fix me, my hands were pretty full anyhow. I am in a much
> better place now, life is good, and love is real.
>
> prayers to all
>
> Simon
>
> -- In positivepartnersofsurvivors@yahoogroups.com, daisymae542003
> <no_reply@> wrote:
> >
> > I am so sad to see what this group has become. Some may remember
> me,
> > some may not but this used to be a great place of healing for
me.
> I
> > have read a few of the recent posts and can clearly see why no
one
> > participates here anymore. This has gone from a group of people
> > supporting and encouraging one another in thier desire to
continue
> > relationships with thier survivors it is now a place of fear,
> > intolerence and self preservation. A clear attitude of "if a
> person
> > has been molested or raped they are trash no longer capable of
> love
> > and relationship." has filled the message board. If I needed
> support
> > with a relationship, if I truly valued and loved someone, "RUN
> they
> > are poison" is not helpful or productive.
> >
> > Maybe no one realized but people who are not survivors also have
> > f*cked up messy lives with emotional and intimacy issues. I have
> met
> > a few and even loved a few of those "normal" people. CSA may
> > compound problems but there is hope. We can all overcome our BS
if
> > we decide to. (With God all things are possible) We have to
decide
> > not to be victims. And that isn't just advice for survivors,
that
> is
> > also for partners. Poor pitiful me doesn't help anyone or
> anything.
> > It only makes us prisoners to our pasts and our circumstances.
> Being
> > a survivor is no excuse for anything I do. It might explain some
> of
> > my perceptions but it doesn't excuse bad behavior.
> >
> > "Hope deffered makes the heart sick" Why steal the hope from
> people
> > who come here looking for it? If your life goal is to inform the
> > world that all CSA's are scary loveless souls based on your own
> bad
> > experiences, start your own group! Positive partners should be a
> > group of positive partners!!! What a thought eh?
> >
> > For all of you haters, I will be praying for you.
> >
> > For all of you trying to figure things out and create a happy
> > beautiful life, I will be praying for you as well. Maybe one day
> > this will be a place for you again.
> >
> > Daisy
> >
>