I remember you daisy... long time baby... I get what you are
saying. I have been pretty quiet on the board, everything with my
partner is dissolved except for our friendship. I did like the way
you pointed out the poor lil me thing, and that partners of
survivors tend to not always be the most mentally healthy
individuals either. That is what I learned in the past three years
of therapy... That she was not the only one that was screwed up... I
also learned that wanting to fix someone is futile, and when it came
time to fix me, my hands were pretty full anyhow. I am in a much
better place now, life is good, and love is real.

prayers to all

Simon

-- In positivepartnersofsurvivors@yahoogroups.com, daisymae542003
<no_reply@...> wrote:
>
> I am so sad to see what this group has become. Some may remember
me,
> some may not but this used to be a great place of healing for me.
I
> have read a few of the recent posts and can clearly see why no one
> participates here anymore. This has gone from a group of people
> supporting and encouraging one another in thier desire to continue
> relationships with thier survivors it is now a place of fear,
> intolerence and self preservation. A clear attitude of "if a
person
> has been molested or raped they are trash no longer capable of
love
> and relationship." has filled the message board. If I needed
support
> with a relationship, if I truly valued and loved someone, "RUN
they
> are poison" is not helpful or productive.
>
> Maybe no one realized but people who are not survivors also have
> f*cked up messy lives with emotional and intimacy issues. I have
met
> a few and even loved a few of those "normal" people. CSA may
> compound problems but there is hope. We can all overcome our BS if
> we decide to. (With God all things are possible) We have to decide
> not to be victims. And that isn't just advice for survivors, that
is
> also for partners. Poor pitiful me doesn't help anyone or
anything.
> It only makes us prisoners to our pasts and our circumstances.
Being
> a survivor is no excuse for anything I do. It might explain some
of
> my perceptions but it doesn't excuse bad behavior.
>
> "Hope deffered makes the heart sick" Why steal the hope from
people
> who come here looking for it? If your life goal is to inform the
> world that all CSA's are scary loveless souls based on your own
bad
> experiences, start your own group! Positive partners should be a
> group of positive partners!!! What a thought eh?
>
> For all of you haters, I will be praying for you.
>
> For all of you trying to figure things out and create a happy
> beautiful life, I will be praying for you as well. Maybe one day
> this will be a place for you again.
>
> Daisy
>