I am so sad to see what this group has become. Some may remember me,
some may not but this used to be a great place of healing for me. I
have read a few of the recent posts and can clearly see why no one
participates here anymore. This has gone from a group of people
supporting and encouraging one another in thier desire to continue
relationships with thier survivors it is now a place of fear,
intolerence and self preservation. A clear attitude of "if a person
has been molested or raped they are trash no longer capable of love
and relationship." has filled the message board. If I needed support
with a relationship, if I truly valued and loved someone, "RUN they
are poison" is not helpful or productive.

Maybe no one realized but people who are not survivors also have
f*cked up messy lives with emotional and intimacy issues. I have met
a few and even loved a few of those "normal" people. CSA may
compound problems but there is hope. We can all overcome our BS if
we decide to. (With God all things are possible) We have to decide
not to be victims. And that isn't just advice for survivors, that is
also for partners. Poor pitiful me doesn't help anyone or anything.
It only makes us prisoners to our pasts and our circumstances. Being
a survivor is no excuse for anything I do. It might explain some of
my perceptions but it doesn't excuse bad behavior.

"Hope deffered makes the heart sick" Why steal the hope from people
who come here looking for it? If your life goal is to inform the
world that all CSA's are scary loveless souls based on your own bad
experiences, start your own group! Positive partners should be a
group of positive partners!!! What a thought eh?

For all of you haters, I will be praying for you.

For all of you trying to figure things out and create a happy
beautiful life, I will be praying for you as well. Maybe one day
this will be a place for you again.

Daisy