OK. So, I'm really writing a lot here. Sorry. I hope it's not too
bothersome. I am just so new to this and could really use all the
help I can get. Even if it's just putting it out there. I'm reading
the archives, but it takes some time to get through it all!

My biggest fear right now (becuase it happened with my last
relationship with a survivor) is that she will just find someone else
to be with for a while until it stops being fun again. Since her nine-
year relationship ended a couple years ago, she has a history of
jumping from one relationship to the next and never staying in
anything more than 7 months or so. Usually that's about the time when
you really have to start working at a relationship and getting to
know what each other needs. So my fear is that she will just find
someone else to be in a fun relationship with until it gets hard
again and the cycle will continue.

Obviously there's nothing I can do about it if that happens and
there's no sense worrying about something that I can't control. I
just need to let it go, but can't seem to loosen my grip...

Dawn