Hi My name is Lindsay and I am in desperate need for suggestions and solutions. It's more than obvious that the boyfriend I have had for 2 years is struggling...
Hi Lindsay, Welcome! Sounds like you are very observant. Congrats on coming to terms with the situation and trying to figure out a way to make it work for...
Lindsay-- What I see here is that since you are super willing and desiring to stay w/ him, he can pretty much do whatever he wants. I know you love him, but if...
_Passive-Aggressive HOWandWhy_ (http://passiveaggressive.homestead.com/howandwhy.html) Lindsay.....The above link talks about the people on the other end of a...
Monica... You are doing great, when I try and find the strength to take a stand for myself and leave, I get so much anxiety I cannot function... He has ...
Jen, I wanted to talk about boundaries. When I have tried to walk away, drive away or just not talk about it, he follows me, takes my keys, blocks doors...
Hi guys, Good stuff on here today. Funny, too, because my guy just pulled a fast p/a thing on me. So glad I have a forum here to vent safely. :) I am now...
I joined this group months ago when I realized my bf of 7 years is PA. We've been doing ok till the last couple months. We bought a house together in Sept and...
Hey Kim, Sounds like you're doing the best you can. It took me a real emergency at the house to make me leave. My guy lives his life in such chaos. Last year,...
Monica, did he ever make it there for New Year? And if he did, how was the rest of the night? The drain was clogged today and he tried to fix it because...
Christine, I know I am co dependent and need desperately to work on that. That is our answer, we cannot change them...I have been thinking of looking for a...
Monica, They do tend to do dangerous acts in their lives. My guy drives around in a car in my name and refuses to get his drivers license reinstated. I ...
WOW, This is making me realize more and more how similar all of our situations are. I too trusted my PA boyfriend and decided to buy a townhome last April....
Lindsay, I share and feel you fear. Every time I think of breaking up with him I get anxiety to the point where I cannot function....I feel very trapped....
I agree and I am trying really hard to do this.. I know that he is probably out right now cheating to get back at me and the thought just terrifies me. I...
Lindsay, I too pray for strength and what is best for my life...I will add you in to my prayers. I am so sorry you are terrified, I understand...hang in, do a...
Well, getting to the root of the problem of his is something you can't control. You can get to the root of your own problem, though. I think it sounds scary...
Lindsay-- If he's cheating on you, what are you going to do? Has he done this before? Hmmm. You haven't done anything 'to deserve this' but if you keep...
Hi and thank you for your replies.. No, he is not physically abusive but I am uncertain if he couldn't be in the future. He's mentioned plenty of times that...
Jen, Sounds like you made much progress! There is hope! It is extremely difficult for a PA to see what they are doing. My bf had been buying the porn ...
In a message dated 1/2/2008 12:38:54 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, lindsly05@... writes: Question here is after this long, and being compatable on so many...
I am 58 year old wife mother and Nana. I have a PA 36 year old married daughter who has my 2 grandkids. I did not know what was the matter until just this last...
Lindsay-- Passive aggressive people want two things to come from behaving this way: CONTROL and A LACK OF INTIMACY. It sounds to me that your bf has succeeded...
My husband, who is PA, is driving me crazy. I read a passage which likened it to a "dance". I have hit bottom. I must lean how to not be a partner in this...
Jen, Thank your for your insight.. I have been through a lot today.. He has shut me out by yelling and hanging up the phone on me again and so it made me...
Lindsay--There are many men who are sex addicts who are not PA. There are many men who are SA who are not PA, though I think the numbers on that one are...
It sounds as if you may have been driven crazy, but you are working a plan to 'un-crazy' yourself. Good job! The thing is, as we find strength and ways to meet...
