Welcome! I'm sorry that you are going through this experience, but I'm glad that you found us! Hopefully our online community will help to ease your feelings...
I'm glad you found us. Post whenever you want. This is a tough deal, this PA, because to the outside world, PA's look soooooooo nice. Barf. Jen ... From:...
Thanks Lisa and Jen, It's going to be difficult for me to break the pattern of old habits, so I will be needing your help. My therapist called me naive - and ...
I have also had a bad experience with my pa attending therapy a couple of years ago. He told his therapist that I was screaming at him sometimes (which I was,...
My hb accuses me of emotional abuse, though, thankfully, it's never been validated by a therapist. and now, my hb's the only one in therapy, which, let's...
my hb and i were in couples therapy, but it quickly became apparent that i was fine, and hb needed help. we went together for a while, then singly, and i...
Yes, we went to a therapist for a couple of years, both as a couple and individually. Hb decided (or his mommy decided and told him) that he wasn't "getting...
I had a good one today. In the process of making myself independent of my PA hb, I am taking M.Sc. degree in IT. I sat down to do some work today, and my PA hb...
My hb is quietly refusing to do anything for me unless I give the okay to let him buy some calves now instead of in a few months when there's pasture available...
Hi Lisa, Thanks for your answer. I was very aware that he was not interested in therapy, and I am only doing it for myself. The only annoying thing is that he...
I think that's frequently the case...there's something in the PA's childhood usually that triggers them acting this way. In my hb's case, his mom tends to have...
*Lisa with understanding wrote* ... want to accept that it's not going to work and MOVE ON. And I'm prepared for the failure of our marriage to be all my fault...
Britt after my 27 year marriage I'm getting out. What advice you just gave is wonderful advice. My priest (NOT the counselor we went to for 16 years) is who...
I have a dear friend who's a psychology professor at a nearby college, and I told her my hb was PA, and she said, "Well, that's curable." I don't envy my hb...
Thanks, Britt! I do hear those demons you mentioned, although with the more crap I get from my hb, the less loudly I'm hearing them! I do have a tremendous...
I guess what I'm saying is, at this point, there is too much here for me to leave. My hb's getting help, and there are a great many things we share that I...
Britt-- I think if you or anyone can make it on their own, they should. But I keep thinking about those issues that nobody asks for, like if my hb got cancer....
WOW Lisa sounds like you've got your head on straight and I loved the part where your hb says "not really", are you sure we are not married to the same man....
Yes, Cindy Poo...it IS very sad. I can't imagine living the way my hb chooses to live. I know he's not happy, but he evidently doesn't know how to do it any...
*Lisa wrote* Yes, Cindy Poo...it IS very sad. I can't imagine living the way my hb chooses to live. I know he's not happy, but he evidently doesn't know how to...
Hi all Living with my boyfriend for 17 years, I am just starting to understand the cycle of a PA relationship I got caught up in. I have obsessive compulsive ...
*Kim wrote* *snippage of Kim's post* A few other things....he went bankrupt recently, driving without a drivers ... my own ... then again, ... moment ... ...
This morning I asked my hb to move out. Yesterday morning I found the shrink-wrap from a porn magazine and the paper sleeve of the bonus hardcore DVD that came...
Enough is enough. when I told my hb to get help for this same prob, he did. your hb has had plenty of chances. he needs to get out. i'm so sorry, and God...
Lisa My thoughts and prayers are with you, I have so much peace now that I have my own place after 27 yrs. We closed on our house Friday and I never saw the...
Thanks, Cindy. I'm doing OK...still kind of wondering if/when he's going to leave. I guess I should have expected this...he IS a true PA after all! He wrote me...
Personally, I'd come up with a list of 'stands' that he must adhere to or he must go, and not your worry about where, how, when. the answer to the last one is...
