Okay, I am being put into another position, and this is a perfect example what happens. Lots of trouble with his side, to the point that I really don't want to...
unless the f-i-l is abusive, go and put up with the beers and the jokes. i put up w/ my h's family, and sometimes i even have fun. it's one night. sorry if...
Jen....I did go and I am glad I did. I have had hard feeling for my FIL for leaving his wife in a nursing home and traveling with a neice for the past 2 years....
good deal i'm proud of you. jen Annette <Annette122362@...> wrote: Jen....I did go and I am glad I did. I have had hard feeling for my FIL for leaving his...
Yeah, I was feeling pretty good about the dinner too until I asked my husband if he had said anything to his dad about me being upset he was traveling with his...
you have been thru a lot. if you aren't in a face to face support group, find one. any one will do, but al-anon would be a good place to start, even if...
I have the book ordered....your last sentence caught my eye...when you said PAs love to stir the pot. I guess I have a lot to learn. I like the not sharing...
My husband admitted to me today that the reason he would not act on the issues WE TALKED about with his sons is because what concerned me was not an issue to...
hold on your husband has shared honest feelings with you, something many pa's don't even do. your feelings are important, but nobody's feelings are more...
Jen....I think the way you looked at the situation is a good and positive one. Certainly something I am not thinking right now. The boys don't live near...
it's really easy to feel hateful and blame the PA, but you really are in charge of your feelings and how you behave. your hb did share good things, so that's...
Jen....the book about the passive-aggressive man that you suggested came in, I read into the 2nd chapter.....oh my word, this is my husband and our relatioship...
http://www.passiveaggressive.homestead.com/ LLOk for a book on this site, for therapist, passive man and victim.... go to counseling. You, and he can not...
I've been married to my PA for 15 years. I know I can't change him and that I need to change my reactions. It's the latter that is giving me problems. Today...
i am a very happy person because i've stopped needing anything from my hb. believe it or not, he is now wanting attention from me. and we are in therapy....
It does make sense. I think that's one of the things about living with a PA that drives the non-PA spouse the craziest...whatever it is that makes us so...
Jen - I guess I should have read your response before I posted! Sounds like you've figured out how to do what I'm trying to do...disengage from your PA H...
Hi Lisa I'm proud of you that you've recognized in yourself the things you can change. People pleasers are so toxic and 'wonderful' around PA's! I don't know...
Lisa you can add me to your yahoo IM if you want. my name is jensdogshadow. Lisa Landerdahl <smartcookie326@...> wrote: Jen - I guess I should have read...
To those of you who replied to my "New Here" message. Having other understand is soooo helpful to me. I am working on detaching. Not that easy for me because I...
I can totally relate. I too wanted that sort of a marriage - best friends, lovers, each other's biggest fan. Not the way it turned out at all. We're doing the...
hi, i'm a pa. i just discovered this week, after breaking up my 2-yr relationship with my girlfriend... i read an article and saw the patterns in myself... my...
it's good that you recognize your issues. is therapy a possibility? PA keeps you from not only having healthy relationships, you aren't able to do well at...
I have been struggling with this relationship for 10 years now. It was OK before I got married. He always had to have his way, acting hot and cold, but he was...
one thing i realize is that we can't change PAs so we have to figure if it's worth it to stay. everyone has to make that choice for themselves. it may be...
[:-s] Being the spouse of a PA, is driving me insane, I don't know what/why/how to interact with my husband. We've been married 33 yrs, it's not a new...
Though it is difficult to ask this question, I don't know many people married or involved with PAs. So I come to this group. My question is: has your PA also...
My H is not physically abusive, but he does have a temper. He does the usual PA thing when he's not angry or only slightly angry. When he gets really mad, he...
