Hi there, I have been married to a PA man for almost 10 years, some days are better than others but we have certainly had our ups and downs. Over the years, I...
Hi I'm glad you posted. I think it probably would help you to read the book again. I know what you mean about being depressed, but there are some tactics and...
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Feb 11, 2006 5:45 am
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... total, 24 married to this one, and until I started reading up a few days ago, I thought it was me,,, I was CRAZY, or so he has my kids thinkin as much as...
I have been married 24 , ( together 27 yr ) to this pa, while never even knowing what it was, thinkin it was me, as he lead me and our 3 children to believe...
hi tough story. pa behavior is awful and does make you nuts. i suggest two things: get some books (amazon has them cheap) and read about passive aggression...
Hi, I have been with my husband for 17 years.....raised his 2 sons along with my 2 daughters and 1 of our own. Problem is that every time I addressed a...
Annette Honestly, it sounds to me like you've got it pretty together. You know what you're dealing with, you've set strong limits, you are able and willing to...
Okay, I am being put into another position, and this is a perfect example what happens. Lots of trouble with his side, to the point that I really don't want to...
unless the f-i-l is abusive, go and put up with the beers and the jokes. i put up w/ my h's family, and sometimes i even have fun. it's one night. sorry if...
Jen....I did go and I am glad I did. I have had hard feeling for my FIL for leaving his wife in a nursing home and traveling with a neice for the past 2 years....
good deal i'm proud of you. jen Annette <Annette122362@...> wrote: Jen....I did go and I am glad I did. I have had hard feeling for my FIL for leaving his...
Yeah, I was feeling pretty good about the dinner too until I asked my husband if he had said anything to his dad about me being upset he was traveling with his...
you have been thru a lot. if you aren't in a face to face support group, find one. any one will do, but al-anon would be a good place to start, even if...
I have the book ordered....your last sentence caught my eye...when you said PAs love to stir the pot. I guess I have a lot to learn. I like the not sharing...
My husband admitted to me today that the reason he would not act on the issues WE TALKED about with his sons is because what concerned me was not an issue to...
hold on your husband has shared honest feelings with you, something many pa's don't even do. your feelings are important, but nobody's feelings are more...
Jen....I think the way you looked at the situation is a good and positive one. Certainly something I am not thinking right now. The boys don't live near...
it's really easy to feel hateful and blame the PA, but you really are in charge of your feelings and how you behave. your hb did share good things, so that's...
Jen....the book about the passive-aggressive man that you suggested came in, I read into the 2nd chapter.....oh my word, this is my husband and our relatioship...
http://www.passiveaggressive.homestead.com/ LLOk for a book on this site, for therapist, passive man and victim.... go to counseling. You, and he can not...
I've been married to my PA for 15 years. I know I can't change him and that I need to change my reactions. It's the latter that is giving me problems. Today...
i am a very happy person because i've stopped needing anything from my hb. believe it or not, he is now wanting attention from me. and we are in therapy....
It does make sense. I think that's one of the things about living with a PA that drives the non-PA spouse the craziest...whatever it is that makes us so...
Jen - I guess I should have read your response before I posted! Sounds like you've figured out how to do what I'm trying to do...disengage from your PA H...
Hi Lisa I'm proud of you that you've recognized in yourself the things you can change. People pleasers are so toxic and 'wonderful' around PA's! I don't know...
Lisa you can add me to your yahoo IM if you want. my name is jensdogshadow. Lisa Landerdahl <smartcookie326@...> wrote: Jen - I guess I should have read...
To those of you who replied to my "New Here" message. Having other understand is soooo helpful to me. I am working on detaching. Not that easy for me because I...
I can totally relate. I too wanted that sort of a marriage - best friends, lovers, each other's biggest fan. Not the way it turned out at all. We're doing the...
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