I dated SO MANY MEN like that. I had one man who never 'wanted' me unless I was
with someone else. then, back he came, over and over. Found out later he didn't
just not want me, he was gay. Yes, I can pick 'em all right!
I do think that it's a confidence thing. Recognize that you have much to offer
to a man and he is fortunate that you care, not the other way around.
Good luck!
Jen

To: passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com
From: prncsskc@...
Date: Wed, 8 Oct 2008 20:35:17 +0000
Subject: Re: [Passive Aggressive Support] Seeking some assistance...




















Thank you for your input Jen, I will definatly take your advice. I

really appreciate it, I can't believe I didn't figure it out before,

I seem to be drawn to this type of man, and have had several

relationships that were very similar. But at least I know now what I

am dealing with, and can get out long before I get hurt again.



Kacy



--- In passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com, Jennifer Leigh

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> The only way to help him is to set boundaries and see what happens.

Tell him you're bringing either a mutual friend or a cop to come get

your stuff.

> NEVER CALL HIM AGAIN. Sorry, but this is a cycle.

> Next time he cries and tells you he's sorry, tell him you will stay

with him if and when he gets therapy.

> Good luck!

> Jen

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> To: passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com

> From: prncsskc@...

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> Subject: [Passive Aggressive Support] Seeking some assistance...

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