The only way to help him is to set boundaries and see what happens. Tell him
you're bringing either a mutual friend or a cop to come get your stuff.
NEVER CALL HIM AGAIN. Sorry, but this is a cycle.
Next time he cries and tells you he's sorry, tell him you will stay with him if
and when he gets therapy.
Good luck!
Jen

To: passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com
From: prncsskc@...
Date: Wed, 8 Oct 2008 19:42:19 +0000
Subject: [Passive Aggressive Support] Seeking some assistance...




















I've been with my Boyfriend for 10 months now, and following our
last

big fight 3 weeks ago, I started looking for some clues as to what

was going on. So I stumbled across an article on P/A and it seems to

fit, only on a much smaller scale. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks, and

it's not for lack of my trying. He's done the 'I need time/space'

thing a couple of times in the past but never to this extent, and

usually ends up calling me crying about how he can't live without me,

and how sorry he is for putting me through it. I've told him in the

past how much I dislike it when he closes me out, and he always

promises to 'try not to do it', but then he does it again. The

reason for our fight is a long story, and we we're both at fault, at

least where I see it, but he is blaming me for all of it, because I

was pushing him to feel something for me that he couldn't/didn't. He

is emotionally cold to me, but only when I get emotional with him.

Any other time he is very affectionate, and loving. He's gone into

hermit mode, and is avoiding all of our friends and hiding

basically. At this point, I have cut off all contact with him,

because he doesn't return my calls anyway. I asked him if I could

come get my things, and he won't let me. He still says we are

together, even though he's not speaking to me, but I'm the one

feeling guilty about it, even though it's not entirely my fault. Is

this normal P/A behavior, and if so what can I do to help him?



Thanks

Kacy
























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