I've been with my Boyfriend for 10 months now, and following our last
big fight 3 weeks ago, I started looking for some clues as to what
was going on. So I stumbled across an article on P/A and it seems to
fit, only on a much smaller scale. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks, and
it's not for lack of my trying. He's done the 'I need time/space'
thing a couple of times in the past but never to this extent, and
usually ends up calling me crying about how he can't live without me,
and how sorry he is for putting me through it. I've told him in the
past how much I dislike it when he closes me out, and he always
promises to 'try not to do it', but then he does it again. The
reason for our fight is a long story, and we we're both at fault, at
least where I see it, but he is blaming me for all of it, because I
was pushing him to feel something for me that he couldn't/didn't. He
is emotionally cold to me, but only when I get emotional with him.
Any other time he is very affectionate, and loving. He's gone into
hermit mode, and is avoiding all of our friends and hiding
basically. At this point, I have cut off all contact with him,
because he doesn't return my calls anyway. I asked him if I could
come get my things, and he won't let me. He still says we are
together, even though he's not speaking to me, but I'm the one
feeling guilty about it, even though it's not entirely my fault. Is
this normal P/A behavior, and if so what can I do to help him?

Thanks
Kacy