I don't know that not speaking to him w/out an apology is retaliating. You have
a boundary, you're keeping it. If you were being PA, you'd stomp off and not say
anything. You told him what you expected.
However, I'm not sure I'd label his behavior. When he says or does something PA
(like breathing ha ha) I wouldn't say, that was PA, I'd just say, I'm not
comfortable with what you're doing. If he gets mad or snotty, just say, I'm
taking a time out. You don't have to define why he's being PA or even that he
is, just that you don't like what he's doing.
One question though--has he addressed that he is PA? If so, you may want to ask
during peaceful times if he is okay with you pointing out PA behaviors you see.
If he is, then do so, calmly. If not, you're only feeding the fire.
My thoughts only.
Jen

To: passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com
From: angeleyes2blue@...
Date: Wed, 3 Sep 2008 06:26:18 +0000
Subject: [Passive Aggressive Support] Slow board...




















I haven't seen any activity on the board for a while...



I have a question about apologies. After having a calm and effective

discussion with my DH, he had to end it with a passive aggressive

comment. When I told him that what he had said was a passive

aggressive statement, he told me I was being a bitch. I told him that

was uncalled for and that I would not speak to him again until he

apologized. Surprisingly, he did give a genuine apology a few minutes

later.



When working with PA people, what is suggested to encourage them to

accept responsibility for their behavior? I've been trying different

methods and the best I've found is to "retaliate" in passive

aggressive form: i.e. saying I will not talk to him until the issue is

resolved. I understand that the difference here is that I tell him

the cause and effects of what I want to happen. What has worked (or

not) for everyone else?
























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