Hi Angie I am new myself and don't remember posting here before. My DH is
currently "in remission", he is so much improved that he only reverts when
things
get very stressful for him.

Here are the few things I worked out while he was bad:
- don't say much, but not in a sulky way
- be very passive so he can't work out from you what to go against. Guard
your
body language so you don't give anything away about which way you are hoping
he will go.
- when you do say something, follow through on every word, and never
suggest any retaliatory action/consquence that you cannot carry out. I'd
say this was vital,
and can take a long time for them to trust that you mean what you say, even
if its negative.
-when you have agreements of any kind, he must always, always do
his part first. You will regret any slips and go backwards.
-set aside all your ideas on how life was going to be, at least for a few
years

I hope these help. There is hope!

----- Original Message -----
From: "angie.rich" <angeleyes2blue@...>
To: <passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Wednesday, July 09, 2008 7:20 PM
Subject: [Passive Aggressive Support] living with the passive aggressive man


> Hi all,
> I'm new to the group and I'm so excited (yet sad that it has to be
> because of PA) to find others who live this pain. I'm reading "Living
> with the Passive Aggressive Man" and have earmarked half of the pages
> so far. I feel I could have written every story myself! I'm working
> on finding ways to communicate effectively with my PA husband and
> learning how to be more open myself. Have any of you found sure-fire
> ways to communicate with PA significant others?
>
>
> ------------------------------------
>
> Yahoo! Groups Links
>
>
>


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