Re: [Passive Aggressive Support] living with the passive aggressive man
Hi Angie,
I read the book only after having gone CMC (clean minimum contact) w/ my
passive/covert-aggressive not-soon-enough-to-be-XH.
For me, the book served as a hugely reassuring checklist of all the things I'd
tried, that still didn't work. Reading that I'd tried so many "right" things,
so many times, to no avail, helped erase the guilt and self-hatred I had for
finally closing my life to him.
Bozo had/has NPD though, so anything I'd tried that "worked" I ended up paying
through the nose. Maybe if there's a 'pure' form of P/A, results would be
different.
Totally identify w/ marking up the pages. I used pencil and a ruler to
underline, made notes in margins, used adhesive flags etc. Put the book in
storage, but I'm not going to throw it away.
> sure-fire
> ways to communicate with PA significant others?
What do you mean by sure-fire?
So that they understand, or so they can't deny it?
Or so they WANT to do what understanding would require follow-through on?
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