In a message dated 4/3/2008 9:43:21 A.M. Central Daylight Time,
mollybme@... writes:




I've just read George K. Simon's book _In Sheep's Clothing_, and he
distinguishes between covert
aggression and passive aggression. Not sure if the distinction is academic.

Bozo (not-soon-enough-Bozo (not-soon-enough-<WBR>to-be-xh) excelled at
passive aggression. Aggr
that's the term, where one follows a rule out of context to destructive
effects - was another
strength of his. He was also brilliant at neglecting huge things he'd agreed
to do, and doing
some small "thoughtful" thing, so he could "prove" he meant the very best.





Was hoping you can explain the difference between covert and passive. I
always thought I am dealing with only passive aggression. WHY is it that the
little things he does once in a blue moom go a long way with me. I can
honestly say he does nothing for me other than pay most of the house bills which
is
a big thing, esp with the economy as it is. However if the bills go over at
all he feels he has given enough, I do not blame him I guess. I am broke
trying to make ends meet on my little income and about 3/4 of his pay check.
He
lives like a king on the rest of his pay check, is this okay? I have come
to question my reality skill lately and do not know what is good or bad for me
anymore. I have allowed him to take my own mind away from myself and do not
know how to get it back. If I bring brownies home from the store he counts
them, I usually do eat one, but he does not want me too. maybe I just need
to hear myself, others would appreciate having some one pay a good part of the
bills and nothing else, maybe I should also. He does absolutely nothing
else, I do everything and I mean everything, he comes home and drinks his beer
then goes out to play, he likes to shoot skeet and trap and spend thousands on
the sport. He just bought a 9000 gun, he owns nothing everything is in my
name because his credit is bad, other than the guns...Kim



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