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Hi,

Well this is my first post here, very much out of desperation I guess.

I've been married to my wife AH for 8 years and we have two very
beautiful children the eldest with aspergers. Life would be pretty
good if AH weren't so chronically PA, instead it's become a living
hell. So this is a situation I'm going to have to learn to deal with,
it's not what I was hoping for 8 years ago, but these things are sent
to try us.

Today started with the most perfect PA example: I usually get up
around 7 in order to leave for the school run by 8.15, today I
overslept but AH didn't wake me until 8.20. Of course it's all my
fault, how could AH be at fault in any way, she didn't do anything?

Anyway just checking in,

Simon H




Mon Mar 10, 2008 1:50 pm

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Hi, Well this is my first post here, very much out of desperation I guess. I've been married to my wife AH for 8 years and we have two very beautiful children...
simon.howard96
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Mar 10, 2008
1:50 pm

Hi Simon, welcome. Could you give us some more examples? It's been interesting for me to distinguish where my stbxH was p/a (e.g. neglecting something he'd ...
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m_in_pain
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Mar 10, 2008
7:00 pm

Simon they are undependable, and you need to take on your own way of getting up. I cannot ask my PA for anything, he will say later and later will never ...
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equiskr
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Mar 10, 2008
7:19 pm

Welcome to the Group. I know that this goes "both ways," i.e., both women and men can be p/a. I just ended a 5-year relationship with a p/a man. Your...
filmmash
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Mar 10, 2008
7:19 pm

Thank you so much for the replies, something I've come to realize is that it virtually impossible to describe what its like to live with a PA, its like some...
simon.howard96
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Mar 11, 2008
11:30 am

Simon, Thanks for the example. Any one story of p/a behavior sounds like one's just sulking about nothing. I can imagine that even your second example could...
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m_in_pain
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Mar 11, 2008
2:58 pm

Hi M, ... paid-job situations, too. Let me ... family, but as time you spend ... money. Maybe she even deems ... time you spend away from her. ... you pay...
simon.howard96
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Mar 12, 2008
10:30 am

Hi M, Multiple embedded posts? I was getting lost towards the end there, Check page 66 of Limits of Scientific Psychiatry: The Role of Uncertainty in Mental...
simon.howard96
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Mar 12, 2008
10:38 am

Hi Simon, "Passive control" puts a much more empathic light on the behavior. Thanks for the link. M. ... ...
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