Hi Monica,

> result, I've been finding out "through the grapevine" some very weird
> stuff from my friends that my ex is doing

Snip that vine. Don't let your 'friends' tell you this stuff. If they contact
you with
complaints about him contacting them, tell them to send him away and shut him
down themselves.
Right now, you're marinating in drama. You're probably yelling, "but I don't
WANT drama!" Well,
then shut it down.

Are you getting any IRL support? Support group?

My experience thus far is that putting the focus on myself - how am I feeling,
how am I detaching
- and work on letting go of expectations the P/A will play at all fair, I feel
my real pain ...
and then it dissipates.

HTH.

M.



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