Well...it's been a while since I wrote here. I've been strong and
haven't contacted my p/a since we broke up in early January. As a
result, I've been finding out "through the grapevine" some very weird
stuff from my friends that my ex is doing, and I guess I need some
support around this. Wondering if anybody else has experienced a
cruel, nasty break up with a p/a. The way he's acting reminds me of
how I was when I was a teenager and in my early dating days...when
I'd break up it would be so "emotional" and we'd both do pretty
stupid things. This guy is doing that! I knew he was immature, but
I really didn't think he was THIS bad!!! I could go on here about
what he's been doing, but I really don't want to waste my time and
energy writing it all down...suffice it to say, he's been really mean
and is trying to turn everything around on me. He's actually
contacted some of my close friends and family members to try to turn
them against me. He's tried to turn this break up in to my "fault",
distorting all kinds of things to make it seem like I was the "bad
guy" when it was him who broke it off and did it very
badly.....sooooo p/a! It's pretty nasty stuff. Break ups are hard
enough...he's just making it that much harder.

The good news is, I'm in a completely different ciy now, and I'm
actually feeling much better in general. I don't miss any of the
chaos that living with a p/a brings. I don't miss the mood swings,
the nastiness, the coldness, the lack of intimacy, the not being
there, the subtle putdowns...the list goes on. I know in my heart
it's right to move on. But I guess I'm grieving the good..there
actually was some in the relationship or I wouldn't have stayed with
him as long as I did.

But I guess I am hurting...and reaching out for support. I've been
through a lot of break ups, and obviously survived them all! But this
one is pretty bad. I'm just surprised at how cold, mean and cruel
this guy turned out to be! Can anybody relate??

Thanks,
Monica