RevDave,<br><br>Thanks for the response. I agree
with you that any program properly worked, allows you
to grow within the program. I just never had that
understanding with the AA program, it was my understanding that
the 12-step program was developed by the founder of
AA (Bill W.) and even he, stayed with the program
until the end of his life. <br> Interesting, that you
bring-up Church because we are very active in the Church
where we attend and because my wife was unhappy with a
few people there decided to take the children and
attend another church. I was stuck in a bit of a
dilemma, leave the church I grew-up in, where we were
married and where our children were baptized, or attend
there alone. I optioned to keep the family together and
attend the new Church. The point I'm trying to make is
my wife seems to "close-the-door" emotionally on so
many people, I wonder, how long it will be before my
foot is pushed-out that door completely. <br><br> I
will say though, that within the last month, our
relationship has improved slighty, for which I am grateful but
I am remaining cautiously skeptical that it will
continue to improve. I will continue to work on this of
course. It just is very hard when I am making so many of
the compromises (in my estimation).