Hi and thank you for your replies.. No, he is not physically abusive
but I am uncertain if he couldn't be in the future. He's mentioned
plenty of times that if we are out at a bar or anywhere where
another guy looks at me then he would beat the crap out of them. He
has punched a hole in the wall when he's been drunk too. I guess my
insecurity stems from the fact that he is very vendictive. He knew
how much I wanted to spend New Year's with him so on purpose he
sabbotaged that by punishing me. Things were going fine Friday and
then he does this! I don't understand how someone can be so cold.
He constantly talks bad behind my back to everyone and then expects
me to have friendships with these people. He always reverts to his
shell at the slightest confrontation and I have to be very selective
on how I approach him. If I say that he is acting a certain way
then he tells everyone that all I do is put him down. Question here
is after this long, and being compatable on so many other areas.. Is
it right to give up on him?? If I were even to mention talking to
someone about this, he would just laugh in my face. His sister just
finished her PHD as a Psychologist and he thinks that he's above any
psychological problems because she never tells him he's the
problem. This is devastating me because I have given him a lot of
my heart and I don't know how to heal and to be consistant with
staying away. Another thing that always confuses me is that
everything that he accuses me of doing is what he is actually the
way he is. Negative, Judgemental, non affectionate and angry.. I
don't understand this. He tells me that he won't be affecionate
until I am or he won't change until he sees change in me, never
taking responsibility.. Today is the first day we haven't talked
and I feel overwhelmed with anxiety.

Lindsay

--- In passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com, Jennifer Leigh
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> Well, getting to the root of the problem of his is something you
can't control. You can get to the root of your own problem, though.
I think it sounds scary that you have to sneak away. Are you afraid
of him? Is he abusive?
> I can't advise you to leave if he physically abuses you when you
do. But then, you have a bigger problem on your hands. I will wait
to respond until I hear back from you further and pray you aren't
being abused in any way.
> Jen
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