WOW, This is making me realize more and more how similar all of our
situations are. I too trusted my PA boyfriend and decided to buy a
townhome last April. It was a foreclosed home and needed a lot of
work. He has a construction degree and told me again and again that
he would remodel it and that it would only take a month or so. The
day after he gutted the place he started an arguement and said that
he would not finish my place unless I gave him 30% of what I make on
the place when I sell it. I refused! I am 25 and put my entire
savings into buying the place and he wanted to make a profit with no
risk on his back. I then had to take out 5 credit cards that were
0% for 6 months in material. He then completely stopped working on
it for 2 months, not to mention he was laid off and laid on the
couch and watched TV the whole time. I was forced to live with him
and put every emotion and could not bring up any disagreement
because he would then sabbotage and prolonge even further. It has
now been 9 months and I had to kiss his butt the whole time. It is
still not done but livable and he won't finish it unless I act and
say what he wants. I am now 30,000 in credit card debt and those
card have rolled over to 20% interest rates. No lender will borrow
me money because my credit score has dropped due to the amount of
revolving debt I have. I now pay a mortgage and $700 in minimum
credit card payments a month. He continues to live his life
peacefully, in a home that is comfortable and we are now officially
broke up because he decided to pick a fight with me so that he
wouldn't have to spend New Year's with me. Ironically I
accidentally left my cell at work two days ago and have no way to
recieve texts or calls from him. This is really hard for me because
a huge part of me feels addicted to him. I am here alone with no
family and honestly on verge of a breakdown. I too, had plans to
rent out the basement and nobody will even consider it in it's
condition and he is keeping it this way because he honeslty gets
some kind of sick satisfaction by this. I am scared by his
unpredictable behavior and don't know what to do at this point. I
feel that he would stalk my house and he's already threatened that
if I broke up with him then he would do something like flood my
basement in return.. Very Scary!!

Lindsay

--- In passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com, Equiskr@... wrote:
>
> Monica,
>
> They do tend to do dangerous acts in their lives. My guy drives
around in a
> car in my name and refuses to get his drivers license
reinstated. I
> threatened to take the care away, and he threatened to take away
the money he
> contribute to the house, which pays most of the bills these
days. So once again I
> lost, I can not make it without his income, since my business is
doing poorly
> lately. I own the house we live in, however did some renovations
and took
> out a home eq loan to fix it. Some of that loan went towards
some of his
> bills. What a jerk I am for doing that, now I cannot make it
without his
> income.....The house is unfinished and do not have enough money
to finish it,
> therefore cannot rent it out. Kim
>
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