Hello, I'm new to this site. I have read over the previous messages
and found it kind of refreshing. I have been married for almost 4 yrs
(6yrs total). Recently, my husband I started marriage counseling due
to all of the passive aggressive signs. Of course at the time I didn't
know this disorder even existed. I just new I wasn't happy anymore. I
was always wondering what I was doing wrong, saying wrong and I felt
controlled and that I was losing myself. I just new something wasn't
right. I basically brought this to my husbands attention...which then
lead us counseling. Anyway, the counselor told him he was a PA. After
a lot of research, I started to understand why I have been feeling the
way I have . lately, the confusion has set in because I am so ready to
leave. I have felt so much lose of love for him that I don't know what
to do. In an effort, my husband purchased a book on how to correct his
PA behaviors. Honestly, when he reads this book I feel in my heart
that he is using this to manipulate me into stay...it was too quick
and too easy. I can see him using this to get his way. Like hey, it's
not my fault...I'm passive aggressive and have zero control over it
because I don't know when I'm doing it.
Any advice is welcome!