In my state, keeping someone from leaving or taking their keys is against the
law and I've called them on my hb. HIs night in jail helped him see I meant it.
I hope you recognize that you are living in a fearful situation, but you don't
have to. It sounds tough, and maybe it is but except in cases of rape and
murder, there are no victims, only volunteers.
I asked my hb the other night what he got out of his dysfunction and he started
to think about it.
Ask yourself-- what am I getting out of enabling his dysfunction? If you can
answer that, you can either change it or accept it.
My take only.
Jen


To: passiveaggressivesupport@...: Equiskr@...: Tue, 2
Oct 2007 05:57:11 -0400Subject: Re: [Passive Aggressive Support] complacency




In a message dated 10/2/2007 12:05:28 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
editorjenniferleigh@... writes:However, if he's inappropriate (which
happens less and less) I walk away for a time out. My hb will want to talk
sooner or later and I say, not until you apologize. By then, he's quieted down
and apologizes.That would be great if I can walk away...I try, he follows me
around the house and will not stop. I keep my mouth shut and he will not stop
until I open say something. I try to leave and the moment an argument may start
he blocks my car in or hides my keys. He does not have out of the ordinary porn
issues but does have many strong other PA stuff. I have been with him for 17
years, he makes good money but is so irresponsible with it. Goes from one
expensive hobby to another, spends thousands, he was into golfing, bicycling,
horses (bought a horse and does nothing now), photography, now skeet shooting.
He buys all the best of for each hobby he goes through. He has no drivers
licence, due to unpaid tickets but still drives. Went bankrupt, which I helped
him with, the list goes on....Kim************************************** See
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