Hi all. My name is Christine and I found this group and am looking
for some support from those who have been through relationships with
PA men. I am 38, my bf is 37 we have been together for almost 7
years and have two kids together. I also have two teens from my
previous marriage. Over the years I have dealt with a lot of his
angry behavior. Never violent but more that he never wants to
discuss an issue. His way of dealing was to run off and go to the
bar. Sometimes he has even been gone all night (I don't believe a
woman was involved, just his stubbornness). He would sleep in his
truck rather than come home to face the music.

I can ramble on endlessly of my issues with him but I thought I'd
explain the most recent first. I'm sure I'll get to the rest later.
My oldest son who is now 16 has Aspergers/Autism Spectrum/PDD, etc.
etc. We (I rather) have dealt with a lot of my sons violent
aggressive behavior due to his medical issues. He is on meds and
works now with a great program who understands him. My youngest
children, with my bf, who are 4 and 1 have been witness to his
violence. My one year old was born with Pallister Killian Syndrome
and due to her needing a lot of medical attention it brought out a
lot of acting out from my son. In the end it came to me placing him
in a foster home voluntarily to give him some help and myself. I
feel so terrible for doing this, but it is also a necessary thing.

Now. how this is in relation to my being here is this. My son has
been gone since July 16 and I can see him whenever I want. This past
Saturday I took him for an overnight visit. My bf was at work and
was having a bad day. When he called about an hour before he left
work I had told him I was going to have a cold beer in hand waiting
for him, he asked about something else and I replied "Not likely,
Francis is here tonight". He immediately got mad and hung up on me.
He texted me saying he wasn't coming home. I had called him to tell
him how childish he was being. He texted me again saying I never
discussed this with him. First off, he's my child and I don't feel I
have to. They don't get along well and I do see his side..somewhat
but still. He never came home all weekend, not a word that night or
Sunday. On Monday he waited till I went to work before he came home.
I tried to email him nicely to tell him how he was acting. He
replied defensively. Yesterday we started having a nice
conversation..online. It came to where he agreed we needed help,
then it blew up to where he was leaving. Saying very mean things to
me that hurt deeply.

Today, he came home from work (working nights) and acted like
nothing was wrong. I said nothing to him before I went to work. He
called me this morning regarding something with my daughter and his
mood was all cheery ..again as if nothing had happened.

I am very tired of having to deal with this behavior from him. He
claims he wants it to be over, yet turns around and does this. I
can't take it anymore! How can you live with someone like this? How
do you get them to realize their behavior.

I am going to send him a link to a PA site that explains the
symptoms ..hoping that he will at least see himself. But I know how
they see themselves…as not to blame for anything and always right.

Sorry for the long post, just needed to vent.