I've been married to my PA for 15 years. I know I can't change him and
that I need to change my reactions. It's the latter that is giving me
problems.
Today is a down day for me. I'd like a happy day once in a while. It's
hard for me not to take the evasiveness, put downs, he doen't remember
saying that and the turned-back-on-me's as the problem personally.
I've been married to my PA for 15 years. I know I can't change him and that I need to change my reactions. It's the latter that is giving me problems. Today...
i am a very happy person because i've stopped needing anything from my hb. believe it or not, he is now wanting attention from me. and we are in therapy....
Jen - I guess I should have read your response before I posted! Sounds like you've figured out how to do what I'm trying to do...disengage from your PA H...
Lisa you can add me to your yahoo IM if you want. my name is jensdogshadow. Lisa Landerdahl <smartcookie326@...> wrote: Jen - I guess I should have read...
Wow..it's great to know I'm not alone living with a paag. Reading you story, is exactly how it is here too. Remember one thing, you have a lot company on your...
I'm astounded at the numbers coming in everyday, wondering if it's "just us?" or is this a sick phenom we're all unaware of that's been quietly raising it's...
I don't think PA comes from doting mommies. From all I've read, it comes from abuse, same as all the other dysfunctions. Jen Mary <pramirez@...> wrote: ...
I think doting mommies with a bad attitude about there husbands or men in general make a significant contribution to this behavior pattern. Scott Wetzler...
it's one small aspect. i am loathe to participate in mother blame. jen dh124w126 <dh124w126@...> wrote: I think doting mommies with a bad attitude about...
I wouldn't call it blaming the mother. She does what is in heart to do - mother and protect. However, the behaviors and lack of emotional development that it...
In the past week, I've taken a big step. Like in a previous post, stopped asking, quit depending, taken control of what I can and doing what I want, mind you...
recognize there is a pendulum swing. You've been too nice and answered sweetly for years. You decide you don't want to do that so you snap, "I'm not going to...
too nice and answered sweetly for years. ....yes 33 to be exact... and in doing so, it was purely out of love and kindness to my husband. Little did I know...
you're welcome. jen Mary <pramirez@...> wrote: too nice and answered sweetly for years. ....yes 33 to be exact... and in doing so, it was purely out of...
As I sit and tpye, just coming from a funeral, twice in one week, I'm sad, not for those who've passed.... but sad that I couldn't go with them. My oldest...
was hoping for any kind of response.... bc i feel like i'm losing it with both attacking on each side all I wanted to do was run [Non-text portions of this...
mary my day has been the pits. sorry, but i'm still recovering, but thank goodness, not in the marriage. a jerk with a bookcase ripped me off. will say a...
He may be diabetic, but unless he's an invalid he wouldn't starve. Sound like your daughter was trying to get you to standup for yourself and dowhat you had...
OMG JEN...I'm so sorry to hear about your incident !! will keep you in my prayers, gentle hugs ((Jen)) [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]...
i'm realizing that when i have been wronged, i lose it, absolutely lose it. i sobbed for hours, but thank goodness, my husband saved the day. mean and...
Actually his behavior may have alot to do with having diabetes. If his blood sugar is going low some of the major symptoms tends to be extreme irritability,...
JS
jamst@...
Mar 25, 2006 1:31 am
as we type, yes he's taking actos for what his doctor doesn't exaclty call diabetes. daughter and i had talked about a reaction she had the day before eating...
It does make sense. I think that's one of the things about living with a PA that drives the non-PA spouse the craziest...whatever it is that makes us so...
Hi Lisa I'm proud of you that you've recognized in yourself the things you can change. People pleasers are so toxic and 'wonderful' around PA's! I don't know...
AMEN Sister. I know how nuts it really is. I am familiar with the I don't remember it" and "you took it wrong" ("What,me hostile?") He can somehow manage to...
I'm (once again) about to the end of my patience with my hb. He's been a real butthead the past week or so...and I doubt that he has much of a clue that I'm...
I would investigate the possibility that your hb is addicted to porn/lust/sex. Verrrrrry common for PA's to be addicted to something. will email you offlist...
FOR THE LAST TIME.........HE'S NOT ADDICTED TO ANYTHING...MUCH LESS PORN. HE DOESN'T HAVE AN ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY. If anything, I'm the one who has that...
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