I remember going to a 12 step meeting for addicts and one of the women there
said she wanted to really find out if she was an addict. She had a stressful
weekend planned and she acted out numerous times that weekend. Came back to the
meeting and said, "Yep, I'm an addict."
You know exactly what you did wrong-- you let him into your life again. He is a
tragedy, and a scorpion. Do you know what scorpions do? They sting, because
that is their nature.
If you decide to stay involved with this remarkably insane person, recognize you
will have NO validation, NO comfort, and NO peace. If you want that, stay. If
not, wish him well, wash your hands of him, and find a new life with you, as a
healthy person.
I'm sorry to be so rough, but he's poison. Run away fast!
Love
Jen
PS my addict story is illustrating that you are addicted to this man, because
even when common sense tells you he's no good, you're falling into his trap
again.

-----Original Message-----
From: "ooopsgurl2000" <ooopsgurl2000@...>
To: passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wed, 02 May 2007 18:42:29 -0000
Subject: [Passive Aggressive Support] Very Confused.Please help if you can.

My xbf that I have RO against hasc cancer. I didn't find out until
the day of court when he used that to get off.I'm not sure if he's
an 'N' but he is passive aggressive, a manipulator and loves playing
mind games.Also enjoys bragging about talking with the x that he
cheated on me with.He spends hours on the internet talking on dating
sites looking for sex. What I don't understand is this: We talked
last week, he's been out of my home for a year now, he's basically
homeless, living in a rundown shack with some ppl he met at the
homeless shelter[they kicked him out for using the churchs computer
to look for women].He's worried about his lung cancer tho I think
he's still smoking.We held hands. He said that he had nothing to eat
that day, I took him to get burgers and a shake and for just having
nausea after his chemo, he ate like a horse.I went to church with
him the next day, all was great, he introduced me to his roomate, we
had a good time. I thought I was special again.We talked about him
not walking to his appointments, that I would drive him so he could
use his strength to get well, he agreed. The next day was his
radiation appt.My daughter got sick that same morning, I was running
around trying to get her to the doc, but I still had time to pick
him up.He calls me and says 'take care of the kids, I'll be ok" THAT
means 'I'm jealous' so he started walking~I found him, took him to
the appt, asked him to call me when he got out.2 hours went by , I
was on my way home, saw him walking about 2 miles from where the doc
was. He ignored my beeps.Guess he doesn't want my help. WHAT DID I
DO WRONG?? He said that he was just trying to help me. He knows this
stuff drives me NUTS! He has the cancer, I was trying to help him.
He says 'just forget about me'.And things like 'you need a man that
will be around for awhile'Also, he had been posting lies about me on
psycho sites, saying that I was HAPPY that he had cancer, that I
wished it on him.WTF??? So I wrote back some things about him and
said those comments would stay on there until he took mine off, well
he read my comments a week later, then got mad at me. I told him I
said I would take it off when he took his off. Now he has me on
there as MS GOD, instead of my name.I talked to him last 2 days
ago,and he said after he saw what I had written he knew that I
wanted him out of my life and that he wished me the best and that
when I moved maybe he'd see me again if I ever came back to town.
WTF happened to the loving guy I had just gone to church with 2 days
before??? He was ALWAYS that way, ONE good day, then HELL. *HELP*
I'm so sorry for being a pest.