Hi - I'm a mom of a 16 year old son who I believe falls under the description of
PA. I am frustrated to the umpth degree. While he fits the description, I
don't feel that my husband or me fit the description of a controlling parent.
I'm way too much of a push over, and my husband has a hard time being super
strict as well.

He complains about food, friends, life, can't work because he has insomnia,
can't get up because he couldn't get to sleep, can't read his schoolwork because
he can't concentrate. If only reasons 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 and so on were different
he would be able to _________ . He would rarely say "that was a good movie."
Always what's wrong. Today, at 11:23, he is still in bed. He cannot believe
how entirely exhausted he is, and his throat is sore. Later, if I ask him to do
any work, he'll likely say he feels really, really dizzy.

I found a lot of websites that told what PA is, and a few things with dealing
with spouses who are PA, but I can't seem to find any advice on how to motivate
a child out of this behavior. I feel desperate. Any help would be much
appreciated.

Maybe he is not PA, but has learned to manipulate his pushover mother.
(Help??)

Debbie


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