Well-
Will try to make this short.
My hb has become a diff person, and the PA is almost gone. Why? I found out he
had relapsed on porn the Thurs before Easter, and we had a huge disclosure. He
started reading the white book of sexaholics anonymous (again, but through a
more honest filter) and realized that resentment is part of sex addiction. he
has become sober (God willing) from his sa and has not done another pa thing,
really.
we are moving day by day through the pain. we're going to RCA meetings (look
them up on the web-- excellent 12 step fellowship for couples-- Recovering
Couples Anonymous). I have been in more pain than I could imagine.
I am currently practicing my own addiction, anorexia, and have lost almost 20
lbs. (I'm overweight so no fear I'm going to drop dead tomorrow). I have no
clean time in this addiction.
we read recovery every day, pray more than twice a day as a couple. our sex
life is back.
life is often painful, but for the first time in our marriage it is honest and
authentic. i am beginning to see a glimmer of hope amongst this devastation.
glad you're all here.
jen