Jen....I did go and I am glad I did. I have had hard feeling for my
FIL for leaving his wife in a nursing home and traveling with a
neice for the past 2 years. Tonight he explained why he couldn't
stay by her and why he had been traveling with his neice. He wanted
to talk about his pleasant memories of his wife and I could see he
really did love her. So it did turn out afterall.

Annette--- In passiveaggressivesupport@yahoogroups.com, Jennifer
Mustoe <authoreditor_jenniferleigh@...> wrote:
>
> unless the f-i-l is abusive, go and put up with the beers and the
jokes. i put up w/ my h's family, and sometimes i even have fun.
it's one night. sorry if i sound crabby, but i say, suck it up and
go.
> jen
>
> Annette <Annette122362@...> wrote:
> Okay, I am being put into another position, and this is a
perfect
> example what happens. Lots of trouble with his side, to the point
that
> I really don't want to be around my husband's family for a very
long
> time. I told my husband this, he said he understood. His dad calls
up
> and tells him that he was coming for a visit. Does my husband tell
his
> dad that right now is not good for us?? No! So now his dad is
here, in
> a camp ground just down the road and doesn't understand why I
don't
> want to see him. My husband explains that I just feel I need time
for
> myself for healing. Then his dad tells him he'd sure like to take
us
> out to dinner.
>
> Okay, if I don't go then I offend my father-in-law. If I am
GUILTED
> into going I'll get to watch my husband and his dad drink beers
and
> have to put up with their corny jokes. So I am damned either way.
How
> does a person stop this cycle?? I have asked my husband to tell
his
> dad that now is not a good time, the last 3 times his dad has
visited
> but he can't or won't.
>
> Annette
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