Okay, I am being put into another position, and this is a perfect
example what happens. Lots of trouble with his side, to the point that
I really don't want to be around my husband's family for a very long
time. I told my husband this, he said he understood. His dad calls up
and tells him that he was coming for a visit. Does my husband tell his
dad that right now is not good for us?? No! So now his dad is here, in
a camp ground just down the road and doesn't understand why I don't
want to see him. My husband explains that I just feel I need time for
myself for healing. Then his dad tells him he'd sure like to take us
out to dinner.

Okay, if I don't go then I offend my father-in-law. If I am GUILTED
into going I'll get to watch my husband and his dad drink beers and
have to put up with their corny jokes. So I am damned either way. How
does a person stop this cycle?? I have asked my husband to tell his
dad that now is not a good time, the last 3 times his dad has visited
but he can't or won't.

Annette