Hi there, I have been married to a PA man for almost 10 years, some
days are better than others but we have certainly had our ups and
downs. Over the years, I have learned to deal with it in my own way
but now I find that I am resentful and really need to change my
approach as I am afraid it may affect my children. I am reacting
from anger more than I used to. I would really like for my chidren
to be in a loving home. Right now, honestly, I do not like living
with my husband, I am happiest when we are apart. We tried marriage
therapy once and it seemed to help but right now finances are tight
(long story). I have read "How to live with the PA man" and to be
honest, it made me even more depressed, like there wasn't much I
could do to change him unless he accepted that he has a problem and
sought help for it. But I think it did help me learn to change my
reactions to him. I think I need to read it again, that was a while
ago. I am committed to our marriage but fantasize about being on my
own, but since I have two children I know that he would never be out
of my life completely so that does not solve my problem. He
actually is a wonderful father, he respects our children, I guess
because he had something to do with creating them?

Joan