With my hb, it's not really his "stuff" - it's primarily trash that he's left
behind. So he has NOOOOOO problem with me cleaning it up. But I can imagine how
much more frustrating it would be if he did want to hold onto all the crap...so
I feel your pain.

Does it get better? Not in my experience. It's EXACTLY like living with a messy
roommate who won't talk to you...and expects you to have sex with him! It CAN
get better, but it probably won't without him doing some serious work with a
therapist. Mine doesn't really see his behavior as the problem in our
relationship (he thinks we don't communicate effectively but we're otherwise
fine), so I don't hold out much hope for us.


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