Hi group,

I have been married for 3 years to a covert/passive aggressive woman.

We are seperated & heading for divorce.

Today I see how angry, abusive & manipulative that she is. The lies
are the part that is the most unacceptable part to me. It constantly
feels as if I am walking in a mine field, on eggshells or a rug that
is about to be pulled out from under me.

A book called living with a wolf in sheeps clothing is very helpful to
me. As I began setting boundaries with her she completely cut me
off. She verbally assaults me when we communicate about our 28 month
old son or the times that I have scheduled time to go by our house to
pick up my stuff.

I see now how truly angry she is & that she will fight to destroy me
to get her own way. I am becoming more assertive & am being more
vocal about how I feel when she is raging, blaming or shaming.
Ussually I comment that I can see that she is angry & I will take a
walk & return shortly to discuss her concerns...

She has involved the police numerous times & it stopped when I
confronted her by sitting down with the watch commander & gave him
copies of her behavior (prior police reports & my court order). I
did actively seek to have her arrested for infringing on my parental
rights with my son & the result has been no further police action...

I am open to others experience, strength & hope...