***...any program properly worked, allows you to
grow within the program.*** True--but it's an
individual's choice whether to continue in it or
not.<br><br>***...it was my understanding that the 12-step program was
developed by the founder of AA (Bill W.) and even he,
stayed with the program until the end of his life.***
That's my understanding too.<br><br>***...because my
wife was unhappy with a few people there decided to
take the children and attend another church...I
optioned to keep the family together and attend the new
Church.*** This sounds like she gave you a coin marked
"heads I win" on one side and "tails you lose" on the
other. <br>*** Well, i try to turn win-lose situations
into "win-win" although I think it defeats the purpose
of her setting the situation. I have become involved
in the chuch without actually transferring
membership. ;-) ***<br><br>***The point I'm trying to make is
my wife seems to "close-the-door" emotionally on so
many people, I wonder, how long it will be before my
foot is pushed-out that door completely.*** She may be
playing "all or none" where favor's granted only to those
who agree with her regardless of what she does.
.....perhaps so.<br><br>***I will say though, that within the
last month, our relationship has improved slighty, for
which I am grateful but I am remaining cautiously
skeptical that it will continue to improve. I will continue
to work on this of course. It just is very hard when
I am making so many of the compromises (in my
estimation).*** True enough. Passive-Aggressive behavior is
manipulative behavior and the person being manipulated cannot
win. How true!<br><br>Message 8 has links for more
information regarding Passive-Aggressive behavior which may
help you. Let me close here because I don't have the
professional expertise that you may need (I'm neither a
psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, or counselor).
<br><br>Best wishes and good luck.
---Thanks!<br><br>silvergreycat