Bruce,<br><br>***...any program properly worked,
allows you to grow within the program.*** True--but it's
an individual's choice whether to continue in it or
not.<br><br>***...it was my understanding that the 12-step program was
developed by the founder of AA (Bill W.) and even he,
stayed with the program until the end of his life.***
That's my understanding too.<br><br>***...because my
wife was unhappy with a few people there decided to
take the children and attend another church...I
optioned to keep the family together and attend the new
Church.*** This sounds like she gave you a coin marked
"heads I win" on one side and "tails you lose" on the
other. <br><br>***The point I'm trying to make is my
wife seems to "close-the-door" emotionally on so many
people, I wonder, how long it will be before my foot is
pushed-out that door completely.*** She may be playing "all
or none" where favor's granted only to those who
agree with her regardless of what she does.
<br><br>***I will say though, that within the last month, our
relationship has improved slighty, for which I am grateful but
I am remaining cautiously skeptical that it will
continue to improve. I will continue to work on this of
course. It just is very hard when I am making so many of
the compromises (in my estimation).*** True enough.
Passive-Aggressive behavior is manipulative behavior and the person
being manipulated cannot win.<br><br>Message 8 has
links for more information regarding Passive-Aggressive
behavior which may help you. Let me close here because I
don't have the professional expertise that you may need
(I'm neither a psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist,
or counselor). <br><br>Best wishes and good
luck.<br><br>silvergreycat