As you have found, relatives can be THE most negative of all people.

When an aunt heard I was going into teaching, the first thing she said was
"How's he going to reach the blackboard"?

As it happens, I used to write from the top to the bottom of the blackboard.
Some 6' high! AND, my feet never left the floor!

Work THAT one out:-)))))

Oh, and the medical profession are not imune either! Lin and I were born six
years apart but the same so called 'specialist' told both our mothers when we
were born that we would be imbiciles!

Sadly, this so called specialist died before Lin and I could get to her and say,
in a bloody stupid voice, "Ellooooo weeee are the imbiciles " Dam, but we never
got our revenge:-)))))

Fred

----- Original Message -----
From: Tony D'Angelo
To: parentsoflittlepeople2@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Friday, July 03, 2009 8:30 PM
Subject: Re: [Parents of Little People 2] grandparetns/parents





I can relate to overbearing in laws. I have one that shakes her head anytime
something comes up. Unfortunately, I will never be able to change her mind about
certain things when it comes to either of my kids. So, I do my best to let
things role off my back these days. In the past we have had many ill words but I
have realized it doesn't help or change anything. You are right though to point
out that dwarfs have many issues that average height kids do as well that are
not really soley attributed to their stature even if their risk is heightened.
Good luck. As moms I think we need to grow thick skin, take the advice we
solicit and leave the rest behind.

Gina (mom to Jackie 11 month achon and Anthony 4 yr ah)

--- On Tue, 6/30/09, jneclay <jneclay@...> wrote:

From: jneclay <jneclay@...>
Subject: [Parents of Little People 2] grandparetns/parents
To: parentsoflittlepeople2@yahoogroups.com
Date: Tuesday, June 30, 2009, 2:55 PM

Okay, so I'm not sure it this should be posted on this site or on the site for
parents with Dwarf children.

My husband when he was an infant 30 plus years ago was diagnosed with
achondroplasia. His parents did the best that they could with what they had but
in the end both of us find many things we would like to change.

We now have a child who is dwarf but come to find out so many years ago my
husband actually has a mild case of hypocondroplasia. He is 4'10 and his feet
and hands are proportionate to his height. The only thing that is effected are
his limbs. Now our child has the same thing and has no problems other then her
limbs as well.

Now, my problem is every time we talk about our child to the grandparents some
how some way it always leads back to it's because she has acondroplasia and that
is why she needs braces, or has a speech problem, etc... It pisses me off to no
end because FIRST she has hypocondroplasia and the ONLY thing that is effected
are her limbs. She needs braces because of genetics' on both sides. I needed
extensive work done on my mouth when I was a child so does that mean I am
dwarf???? I have a VERY small mouth and over crowding of the teeth again does
that mean I am dwarf?? I needed speech therapy as a child and my sister and
brother had tubes in there ears because they have small canals in the ears. Do
you see what I am getting at??? We are all average height and she could just as
easily gotten some of the problems she has with her teeth from me. I just seems
like I am constantly defending her and trying to get that HORRIBLE label off her
and my husband. There
are other factors to the reason why she needs things done to her, I mean she
DOES have my genetics as well as her fathers.

So what I am I to do??? I feel like I am starting arguments all the time and
when ever I try to talk to them about it my mother in law gets defensive and
then in turn I get defensive with her. I hate to put this wedge between us but I
hate that every time something happens it is because she has acondroplasia (even
thought it is hypocondroplasia) . Does anyone have any suggestions on how to
handle this?????
Thanks

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