--- In orphanedchildren@yahoogroups.com, "kkornbreadandchicken"
<kkornbreadandchicken@...> wrote:
>
> I'm an Adult now, have a good husband and 3 daughters. Good Job and
> happy. But now I feel really alone. I really dont know my real
family,
> and my Foster Parents were all I had for my children and I. Now what?
> I was never close to their own children they had. ( they were grown
by
> the time i got on the scene). After they died this past year, I found
> out that, after being told -They loved me as their own...I wasnt
> allowed to read the will. But yet my mother (foster Mom) told me I
was
> in the will. I feel funny by asking her own Bio-children. "May I see
> The Will". What do I do?
>
Hello: My Name is Erich, and I am the person who started this group
many years ago. I wanted to write you in response to your situation. I
hope you know the gift of what your foster parents gave you by raising
you, and really making you feel as if you were theirs has nothing to do
with how money they left you in their will. It would really be a slap
in the face to them, if that is really your only interest in this whole
experience with them being in your life. If it is then pursue this, by
literally calling up the biological children and letting them know you
were informed by which ever parent that you understand that you were in
the will. If they choose to give you problems and not let you know if
you are part of the will, then you may want to consult a attorney to
work with you on seeing if you are in the will. You also may want to go
to the courthouse and do a little research to see what is in probate,
and how that is being handled. Who is the attorney involved? You may be
able to bypass the biological children all together, and just consult
the attorney invovled with the case in probate. If I were in your
shoes, I would cherish the memories of what this family offered to do
for me by taking me in, and not tarnish the experience because of
greed. If parents really intended for you to have something. I am sure
you would have been given a copy of the will, or you would have been
insistent in getting it prior to them expiring. I hope things work out
for you, and that you focus on the gift that was given and not the
greed.


Sincerely, Erich