--- In orphanedchildren@yahoogroups.com, saiyajin_melchizadek wrote:
> I might be in the wrong place since I am a kid
> who is not even old enough to have a public profile.
> But I was wondering if anyone could help me out. Both
> of my parents died when I was very young, and since
> 1994 I have been living with my grandparents and my
> uncle (one of my legal guardians). What I need help on
> is finding the words and the way to ask people who
> knew parents "what were they like?" with out offending
> anyone. And what do I do if they avoid my question? I am
> just asking these questions because I am finding it
> really hard to create my own identity when I have no
> idea where I can from. If you have any suggestion, I
> would be extremely thankful.<br><br>Sincerely,<br>Mel

Hello Saiyajin: It has been a while since you wrote this letter to
us, and I want to apologize to you for not responding back to you
sooner. But here goes. I understand that you are interested in
learning more about your parents? the best advice I can give you
which you may find strange, is to look at a few episodes of the Ricky
Lake Show, or The Jerry Springer Show, the reason is because these
shows are literally hard core of what the posibilities could be about
your mother in father. You must me open to all the possiblities about
them. Get out of the fantasy of what you would want them to be, and
look more at what are all the possiblities would be about them. If
you are not open to all the "what ifs" then you are not really ready
to ask your grandparets, nor uncle about your parents. My suggestion
would be to try going to local support groups in your area that may
deal with these type of situations, or try coming back to this group.
We are trying to spread the word to people about this group, so
whatever you can do to let others know, will help. I will spend more
time checking back with you and others personally to see how your
doing. Sincerely, Yaegerj