Dear Mel,<br>It's a long time since you asked
your question. I have just joined the club, and am
happy to offer my reply.<br>Parents are supposed to be
the guides and the protectors of their children,
providing instruction and education for a child to
implement during the growing up period of life.<br>Children
brought up by their birth parents aren't much better off
than orphans, provided that the orphan is brought up
by someone who loves him/her. <br>If you are looking
to find out what your parents were like, then the
best way to do that is the straight and honest way.
You simply ask your Grand parents as well as your
uncle, to tell you all about the man and the woman who
were your parents before they died. You will find that
Grandparents are qite keen to tell you all about their
children.<br>Don't be too concerned about creating your own
identity; if you live a good life and respect those who are
substituting for your parents, you will go a long way towards
identifying yourself with the decent people of this world.
And that is an identity well worth pursuing, it is
also what your parents would have liked you to
do.<br>There is no need for you to be concerned about anyone
being offended when you ask a sensible and necessary
question. People become offended only when you ask
something personal that is too embarassing for them to
answer.<br>There is no one else in the whole world who is more
entitled to know the truth about his parents, than you,
because you are the son of your parents.<br>If your
request to know as much as possible about your parents is
avoided, then keep on asking, there is no need to be
ashamed about asking about one's parents. I would be so
surprised if you are refused a reply.<br>Sincerely Vince.